I think the real work of natural infant hygiene is that of There are days when it can seem like the most difficult thing in the world to do. And there are days when you have glimpses of enlightenment: the feeling of being in the present moment, being in the flow, having that peaceful experience of synchronicity and symbiotic relationship that can develop between mother and child when they are in tune.
Natural infant hygiene opens another avenue for parents to tune in and respond to their baby's needs. This opportunity for strengthening the intimate parent-child relationship relies on practical tools designed by nature to work. Yet, this approach offers much more than just another parenting "technique" for dealing with a baby's elimination. Ideally, it is fundamentally a way of with a baby. This way of being focuses on relationship and communication: natural infant hygiene is seen as part of a lifestyle, rather than a chore.
When parents first hear about this practice, they may wonder if this means forcing or rushing a child to grow up before they are ready. This is a valid concern, but one that is easily allayed when you've seen this gentle approach in action. Unlike conventional toilet training, the focus in natural infant hygiene is not on the baby contracting and retaining or "holding in" body functions. Rather, the baby communicates a need and relaxes and releases at will with the parent's support. The ability to retain develops at the baby's pace, as a natural consequence of his or her awareness. Millions of mothers worldwide can attest to the fact that babies can voluntarily regulate their elimination without any coercion or negative effects whatsoever. In fact, parents often feel an increased closeness and respect for their baby.
Natural infant hygiene is a two-way communication. Around the world, parents may use a specific sound (such as "shhh" or "sss") and a specific position to hold their baby when they eliminate. This serves as a kind of preliminary language that the baby comes to associate with the act, and a way for the parents to offer an opportunity to go. However, it is always the baby who decides whether they need to go or not. Sometimes the baby also begins to use this sound as a signal to the parent.
Free! The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Infant Hygiene
by Ingrid Bauer